Love Cycles, Fear Cycles
Love Cycles, Fear Cycles was written to help you better understand your close relationship. We hope you'll be able to see what's been going wrong for the two of you-and learn how to make things right. We've noticed a pattern that seems to be true of all partnerships. Commonly called vicious cycles, they are times when things get worse and worse, and you can't stop it. These cycles can result in bad fights, or in distance and withdrawal. Each person is part of these cycles; you do them together.
We hope that with the help of this book you'll learn to see your own cycles clearly. We hope you'll also learn to see what each of you does wrong, and the vulnerabilities that drive you. When you can identify these patterns, you'll have taken an important step toward making things better.
Then we'll talk about how to change your cycle. We hope you'll see the specific behaviors you each need to change, and the specific feelings that make each of you so vulnerable. We hope you'll also see how your past has contributed to your cycle. And we hope you'll be able to clarify what you truly want instead.
Reduce Conflict and Increase Connection in Your Relationship
Love Cycles, Fear Cycles teaches readers the most important idea in all of couples therapy. This idea gives readers a new understanding of what’s been going wrong in their marriage – and a new way to make things right.